How to make of your son a Happy Boy

By: Rocio Ramos Paul “Supernnany”

Summary and Contribution by: Prof. Elvio Gutiérrez Santana


What is it more difficult to deal with a boy 3 years or one of 30 years who not yet goes away of the house?

1. The Education of the children is necessary to take it with much Desire, Time and much Patience. Job patience Plus (see the book of Job in the Bible and to adapt it to the 21st century).

2. One of the best forms to educate is with the example, you want that your son be educated: you must be educated, ordered, loving, and pacific, teach with the example and tries of which it follows a proactive and positive routine since he was born

3. The parents have necessity to know what they must do with their children.

4. To look for easy, motivate, practical and useful treatment, reads well, non difficult, complex and severe because it does not work and you will frustrate the boy.

5. The Primary target that must prevail in the parents is to educate and to instruct and to do it well. Not to mistreat it, to ridicule it and/or to make it a boy and/or empty adult.

6. The Parents who want to do it all perfect one undergo a so great anxiety, that they finish in the doctor's office of the supernana (psychologist), they are very theoretical and little practical because they are not perfect and by the force and negative attitude nothing good is obtained.

7. To deliver the attack of not shouting the boy to him, and if it arrives to do it, requesting pardon soon to him.

8. The 0-6 boy years has his greater development of the brain, is necessary to develop that window before it closes.

9. The changes of articles of incorporation, in these changes there are four important factors. Fear to fail (to motivate it to make the things), lack of real time (to spend time of quality to our children, to make it to, film star, to supervise its activities, but not to give everything him what asks), the tension, stress, the anxiety causes that we mark a hyperactive rate to him since rises. To do habits the weekend to him (To remember that the children do not have the sense of the time that we have)

10. Create habits clear and consisting of norms to him, coordinated by the parents.

11. What to do? To equip the boy with the tools so that one feels safe, loved and protected.

12. To teach the effort to reach the things to him so that they value soon it.

13. We are going to make other things to your son so that he is happy; you go to cause that he is protected through the limits and the norms and you are going to obtain that feels like safe through the habits and the routines; and you go to obtain that one feels dear giving time him of quality”. Thus we increased the probability of being happy.

14. We are going to go of most general at the most concrete. We have spoken of the social circumstances, we have spoken of which, mainly, it is necessary to adapt, is necessary to educate to our son in the situation that we have, in the reality that there is.

15. Conduct guided and controlled through consequence. The norms teach the control capacity, (good modal).

16. To stimulate them and to teach to him to value the effort to secure the things.

17. A boy feels safe and protected when he has limits. For that reason it is important you consider that them, because if no, it feels like more fort and if more fort feels than its parents, imagine how it is going away to feel facing the rest, is going to understand that the rest must be to its disposition.

18. A boy is happy must feel safe; so that a boy feels safe must have limits; so that a boy has limits it is necessary to know how to say No and maintain it to him; so that it understands no, you must allow experiences him where it does not obtain what wishes and/or to obtain supposes it a effort; it will learn to handle its frustrations, and therefore, to canalize its aggressiveness and anxiety; so that a boy is happy has to feel dear; so that a boy feels like beloved, you must count it and demonstrate it, give kisses and hugs, say that you want and the special thing to him that he is for you. So that a boy is happy you must work their self-esteem, so that he has self-esteem, must feel protected, dear and valued; so that a boy feels valued, you must take care of it and listen to it; so that one feels taken care of you must spend time with him. So that a boy is happy, you must give back a competent image to him of itself; so that one feels competent you must favor and award its profits; so that a boy has profits you must assign responsibilities to him that can fulfill. And, finally, like final reflection and to finish in positive, I say to you, you never forget to say to them and to demonstrate every day to him much that you love them.